A good and healthy relationship means different things to different individuals. While in a relationship, everybody wants to feel safe, supported & respected. Being in a good & loving relationship is all about Maintenance. We have to keep things fresh, give time and attention to each other & go through the ups and downs that we face. A good relationship doesn’t just happen- You have to work at it. All couples experiences problems and challenges in their relationship. Relationship changes and you need to be aware of how they are changing & adapt to those changes.
“What makes for a healthy romantic relationship differs from couple to couple. Forming a trusting and positive partnership takes effort & time, & unfortunately, it doesn’t happen overnight. For any relationship to grow strong and stay strong, you need to put in some work.” – Psychologist Dr. Lars Madsen
Here are some Golden Tips that will help to create & maintain healthy & loving relationship.
COMMUNICATE
Open, Safe & Honest Communication is one of the most important qualities of a healthy relationship. It is important to understand each other’s needs & expectations – being on the same page is very important. That means you’ve got to talk to each other, you have to speak up. If something is bothering you, it is best to talk about it, instead of holding on it. Also avoid making assumptions about each other’s feelings, wants, and reactions.
You have to talk about your feelings; no matter how awkward or uncomfortable it may feel. It will lead to a long-lasting and more fulfilling relationship. Talking through problems builds trust and makes your relationship strong. And it’s not only about discussing your problems, also feel free to appreciate each other when something they do makes you happy. Express your gratitude. Express your good as well as bad feelings.
BE UNDERSTANDING
Love without understanding is probably more like greed or lust. Understanding in relationship simply means being aware, sensitive & intuitive about each other’s feelings and situation. It is about emotionally relating to each other. We all experience emotional turmoil time and gain in our relationship. Being able to trust our partner with our feeling is part of having a great relationship. While sharing our feelings and personal experiences, if our partner is supportive it builds trust. It also gives us more strength to deal with whatever the issue is.
Therefore, we must have openness to understand each other. When we have discussion or conflict with partner, we have to think before we act. Instead of losing control of ourselves and our emotions, we have to give second thought on the matter and try to solve the issue in a more calm way.
Mutual understanding is the main backbone of every happy relationship. No one is perfect that is why understanding is so important. You must learn to understand your partner, be patient, sympathetic and encouraging.
RESPECT YOURSELF & RESPECT EACH OTHER
“Respect is a combination of Appreciation, Admiration & Recognition of a person being worth something.” Respect, like many things, begins with the self. Before we can truly respect others we must like and respect ourselves.
“It is how you see yourself that people will see you.”
It is really very important for you to know your self-esteem. If you under estimate yourself, people will under estimate you. So, you have to value yourself.
Respecting others and their opinions and feelings is also an important part. If you want respect you have to give respect to others. Treat your partners the way you want to be treated. Listen to what they have to say and always think twice before speaking. Negative words and behaviors break relationships and shatter self-esteem of others.
Some people disrespect their partner in-front of their family and friends without thinking how bad they might feel. There are also people who just let their partners get disrespected by others. It should not be like that. If we want a good, understanding and lasting relationship, we should respect our partner always and stand by them when they are disrespected.
“Respect is prior to a relationship. If there is no respect in the early stages of a relationship then leave it because you might get hurt the more you stay.”
APPRECIATE EACH OTHER
How much do we have appreciation in relationship or is it that we take each other for granted. Often we don’t even notice the absence of care and appreciation for each other until something happens to make us realize – arguments, affairs, frustrations, resentments and then we try to figure out what it is that is not working in our relationship.
What was the last time that you expressed how much you appreciate your partner or your loved ones? Most of us don’t do it often. That is the main problem.
Appreciation is a key to building a healthy relationship. It can help bring out greatness and re-kindle the love that is there.
Appreciation is the act of giving something or someone their proper value. When people feel valued, they can understand where they stand in your life and what they mean to you. Appreciation lets your partner know that you are grateful for what they do for you. It makes them feel loved and respected.
So don’t hesitate to appreciate your partner and loved ones. Say thank you for little things they do for you.
Appreciate what you both contribute in your relationship. Don’t take anything for granted just because someone have done it every day. Express what you love about them. Notice little things. Have fun expressing each other and appreciate & express your love for each other. Don’t focus on each other’s faults and mistakes.
When we appreciate each other, we focus on positive aspects, we grow and have positive attitude towards life and towards our relationship. We evolve in our relationship and understand each other deeply. It adds beauty to our relationship.
So taking time for expressing appreciation in relationship can make a big difference in building a healthy relationship.
TRUST AND HONESTY
Trust and honesty are the two key qualities essential in a successful & lasting relationship. Maintaining these can be quite a difficult job, as both you and your partner will have to work hard to maintain them on both sides.
Among different qualities people want in a partner, “honesty” is almost always there in the list. Unfortunately, most of us have had the experience of being lied to. When you have a relationship and a family, you need to understand that everyone is on the same page, and this is hard to do unless both of you are being honest.
Promoting trust is crucial in building a strong, healthy relationship between two people. The key to starting the bond may have been Love, but being trustworthy, and trusting your partner will be one of the things that make it last. If you want your partner’s trust, you must show honesty and integrity from the beginning and maintain it all along the relationship.
Trust is imperative to the success of any relationship, however it appears that people violate this loyalty relatively often, the reasons for which vary as much as the people.
When there is feeling that you can totally trust your mate, it removes the potentials for worry. It also boosts your internal security so that you not only feel good about your partner, but also feel better about life. Having an honest and trustful relationship establishes a kind of buffer between you & the complications of the world. Having a partner you can trust and rely on also makes it easier to be positive towards life and gives strength to take risks that help us grow. Honesty gives you a great deal of comfort. Knowing you can totally trust your partner allows you to be your best self, and your relationship will continue to blossom because you are able to give each other the positive vibes you need, to go through life’s ups and downs.
Honesty is also not just about telling the truth, either. It is also about telling the truth in a way that your partner will hear it and benefit from it. We all want to hear how great we are, of course, but we can also benefit from making some slight adjustments in how we do things. This is where a little honesty from someone you love and trust will help you make the small changes that can make your world a better place.